if you have been trying to improve your emotional labour / mental load skill set (or have already succeeded in doing so!!), i would love to hear some stories of what tangible tools worked for people. i often refer to this thread when trying to take stock of how i am doing, or when i am struggling to find the words for something that is feeling amiss in my relationship. if you were similarly inspired by this thread, i'm wondering what concrete steps you took to improve your emotional labour / mental load skill set?
the lists are the "what" of emotional labour; i am wondering what your "how" was? if you are trying hard to do the "what"... what "how" actions does that translate into?
are there checklists you use (other than the one linked to), and where do you keep them / how often do you consult them? reminders on the fridge? lists on your arm? daily meditations on its value? the emotional labour of being reminded by your partner for these new behaviours to "stick?" reminders on your phone? (my personal fave)
basically -- what worked for you, so that these things are now habitual behaviour? thank you in advance for investing the emotional labour to answer this question!
the lists are the "what" of emotional labour; i am wondering what your "how" was? if you are trying hard to do the "what"... what "how" actions does that translate into?
are there checklists you use (other than the one linked to), and where do you keep them / how often do you consult them? reminders on the fridge? lists on your arm? daily meditations on its value? the emotional labour of being reminded by your partner for these new behaviours to "stick?" reminders on your phone? (my personal fave)
basically -- what worked for you, so that these things are now habitual behaviour? thank you in advance for investing the emotional labour to answer this question!
